Friday, October 2, 2009

How to ask for help

When Gess is sick, several people ask "Is there anything I can do?" and my standard response is "Thanks, but we are fine." Mostly because I do feel "fine" and don't know what to ask for. But as things have changed, I know that I probably need more help, but I am not sure what to ask for. I am so used to doing this all by myself, it is just hard to envision having other people involved. We have started to have one couple more involved. They will take Gess to the hospital and they watch Beauty. But, there are other people that want to help and I honestly just don't know what I can even ask for. It is hard for me to ask for help, period. Even more so when I don't know what to say. I have the best friends and they really do want to help, and I know that I need to let them help. I just have to figure out how.


CowTown said...

I think if you agree to their offers but saying how much you would really appreciate it and how much their help will take a load off, that would set the stage.

Don't think of it as if your friends helping you somehow makes you look needy or weak or failing or incapable. It's absolutely none of those and I would guess those images wouldn't even cross their minds. I don't know if these feelings are your or not, but letting your friends help out in a time of need is a beautiful thing, for everyone. Accept it as a gift and I bet all parties involved will feel warm and fuzzy inside. Truly. <3

If I lived closer I'd bring over a bunch of my yummy zucchini bread!

Good luck.

jordysmom said...

I'm not good at asking for help either, but CowTown's advice seems pretty good.

I know it makes me feel good to help others, so it stands to reason it would make others feel good too. Especially those people who care about you, and are worried about you. They probably feel helpless, and letting them handle an errand for you or something would probably be a good thing.


CowTown said...

How's it going?