Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Husband talked to his mom...

And it did not go well.  The back story is that she sent us a horribly insensitive letter saying that she was so glad that we dealt with his CF so she was free to do "her own thing."  This was a few weeks ago and the weight of that letter and a lot of other past things that she has said have continued to bother us.  I was going to talk to her about it, but then G decided that he wanted to do it.  So he decided to do it last night on his way home from work.  I wasn't there so I didn't hear it, but he was extremely upset.  Apparently she doesn't see how she has done anything wrong.  She also reminded him of other things--like when he was in the ICU fighting for his life and she called because "she needed to say her good-byes."  Seriously, this woman has no tact whatsoever and just doesn't "get it."  All of her comments are so focused on herself--it is all about her needs.  

The list of this things is growing longer and frustrating beyond end!   It is so hard to see him hurting so much for this stuff.  I guess it is times like this when I am thankful that she lives so far away and we don't have to deal with her on a regular basis.  The thing that worries me a lot is that when things do get worse with the CF, she is not only not going to be a support, but in fact she is going to be a considerable liability. 

4 comments:

Sara said...

O Lisa, I am soooo sorry you have to deal with her. My MIL is very selfish in her actions as well-thinking only of her needs and not the pain dustin and I have to experience struggling through so many things. I must say you are VERY lucky she lives so far away. Mine lives about 5 miles away. You are in my thoughts...

Amy said...

Oh man what a retched woman!!!! To think that CALLING and saying her goodbyes is a good thing and to even bring it up is ridiculous!!!! I feel for you guys and I hope that she either turns around and becomes a more sensitive, unselfish person, or she falls off the face of the earth LOL!!!

Hugs to you and Gess!!!!

<3

lasankey said...

I'm so sorry. For some people it's all about them and there is no changing them, they'll always play the victim. I'm sure it's heartbreaking for you to see your husband go through all the pain when having to deal with someone who is so self-involved and not be able to fix it.

My own mother is one and when our son was hospitalized/ diagnosed with cf due to ME, I made a decision to not allow her to come to the hospital because it was going to be all about her. There are times we don't need that kind of drama in our lives.

Keeping Gess and you in my thoughts. Liza aka ratatosk

jordysmom said...

So sorry that you guys have to deal with her selfishness. It stinks when you can't call your mom to get support, because she makes it all about her.

I hope one day she can see past herself to be the mom Gess needs her to be.

Stacey