So, my sister finally took her kids and went to stay with my mom--not an ideal situation, but better than with the abusive jerk. I guess she moved on Friday or Saturday. According to her she is on some waiting lists for places, whatever. So yesterday she sends an email asking for money for gas and to do laundry. I didn't respond because Gess usually handles family loan requests and he was asleep most of the day. So, about an hour ago I get an email from her asking if we had a chance to talk about it, etc. I was in my 7th hour in the ER and a bit perturbed. So, I shot back a quick email to say "We are at the ER, so we haven't had a chance to talk about it." Then after a few minutes I emailed her again to say no. I have told her no more money several times. This was hard because of the circumstances, but I think that it is the right thing to do. So, here is the email I got back in response:
"i am sorry i wasnt asking for you to give me money i asking for you to help me and my kids and itts not like i wasnt going to pay you back i am right now without my own house without anything except what i was able to bring to moms and on the verge of losing all my other stuff that is imporant to me and the things that are not that important but hard to replace when you are a piece of shit like i am i was only trying to help me and my kids out any way that i can because like you and i both know they should have better then what i can give them and i have tried to do better for them by leaving the house that i did have i dont want to go back but i might end up having to again i am sorry that i even ask i wont anymore della"
Seriously??? I mean, am a wrong for saying no? I understand that she is in a rough spot, but is my money really going to help? She has borrowed a lot of money in the past and paid some back, but not much. She is always asking people for help and she is constantly emailing me and complaining about her life, etc. She says that it helps to vent, but it really stresses me out. She is 30 years old, and can't do anything to take care of herself, let alone her 3 kids. I have done everything that I can think of to help, even sitting down with her and showing her how to set goals and make a plan to meet them, etc. I really just don't know what else to do. It literally makes me sick to my stomach.
Are these kids going to get hurt because I don't give her money? It would be easier if I didn't have any money, because I just flat couldn't do it. We are not rich or anything (and God knows CF is frickin expensive!), but we do live a comfortable life. And you know, if my best friend called me right now and asked to borrow money, I wouldn't even think twice before getting out my check book. But that is because I know that it would definitely be an emergency and that she would use it and help herself and pay me back asap. With my sister, it is not like that at all. I mean, I have probably given her over a thousand dollars and what difference has that made? But, at the same time, how can I wear a $800 necklace, while my nieces and nephews are in this situation??
Of course, the timing of this is just great! I promise I am going to have a happy post at some point...I don't want to seem like a whiner!